courtship punishment

time swift unnoticed so as youth unlikely slipping and after all the years of labor to fulfill a reliable way of living, it’s time that i decide to settle down and have a family of my own.  except having said than done, how will i be able to reach that if not coursed thru by courtship—an amusing affair to engage with that i perceived it as a waste of time, why?

primarily because on each date, both go out for an exquisite dinner, offer sweets, flowers everyday, good grooming and behavior; so as any other type of surface acting that is temporary expresses sincerity to a strong feeling of passion.  then, once the stage of courtship chooses to settle permanently, either one of the two lovers opt to announce farewell—an awful memory haunts one’s nightmare; recalling the time and resources spent, all’s gone to waste.

what about, let’s skip the courtship engagement and move to a fixed relationship method of attack on my first date?  how can it be more heartfelt to see i declare about a dream family, future plans, stability to face any challenges, and certainty the two of us will overcome; will that prove to express a realistic sense of devotion?

as expected, even if i try this approach, she finds it weird and absurd.